If a person in my life has a constant need for affirmation, it may be that they have never learned to think through what they are asking for. Can you help me with my homework? Its the dreaded dad question. Probably not because i haven’t done algebra since 10th grade. Probably not because I don’t […]
We can often find outselves hiding our needs in a complaint. We haven’t had a date in a week. You never listen to my ideas. You never take initiative. All these can easily be reframed as a simple request to have your needs legitemately met. Could we go out on a date tonight? Can we […]
We all have them. Unhealthy patterns in otherwise healthy relationships. I believe in counseling. So I practice what i preach and talk to my therapist often. And sometimes I get real gold. Typical me, I want to share it. So here’s today’s therapy gold. If you push me away, that’s where I’m at. Sometimes people […]
If a person in my life has a constant need for affirmation, it may be that they have never learned to think through what they are asking for. Can you help me with my homework? Its the dreaded dad question. Probably not because i haven’t done algebra since 10th grade. Probably not because I don’t […]
We can often find outselves hiding our needs in a complaint. We haven’t had a date in a week. You never listen to my ideas. You never take initiative. All these can easily be reframed as a simple request to have your needs legitemately met. Could we go out on a date tonight? Can we […]
We all have them. Unhealthy patterns in otherwise healthy relationships. I believe in counseling. So I practice what i preach and talk to my therapist often. And sometimes I get real gold. Typical me, I want to share it. So here’s today’s therapy gold. If you push me away, that’s where I’m at. Sometimes people […]
How to be friends with people from different social classes. I spent a number of years in Africa. The richness of my time there is in the relationships I formed. But one tension was always money. Who had it, who didn’t, and how it was leveraged. In my context in the US, I am thoroughly […]
I live in the Northland. I have a dog. Fortunately, she’s lazy. One walk a day and she pretty much sits by the fire and loves life. But for a time each day, she needs to get out an move. So we walk. The weather is irrelevant to the need. When I live life this […]
49 Life lessons learned by age 49. As I approached 40 years old, I decided to sit down and write. I wanted to write things I had learned, so that I wouldn’t forget them. Well, research says that you don’t forget as much as your library gets bigger. But that’s beside the point. So those […]