Author: Charles Porter
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Friends, Money and Social Class
How to be friends with people from different social classes. I spent a number of years in Africa. The richness of my time there is in the relationships I formed. But one tension was always money. Who had it, who didn’t, and how it was leveraged. In my context in the US, I am thoroughly […]
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There is no weather, there is only walking the dog.
I live in the Northland. I have a dog. Fortunately, she’s lazy. One walk a day and she pretty much sits by the fire and loves life. But for a time each day, she needs to get out an move. So we walk. The weather is irrelevant to the need. When I live life this […]
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Life Lessons: 49 Life Lessons. Lifecartography, 9 years later.
49 Life lessons learned by age 49. As I approached 40 years old, I decided to sit down and write. I wanted to write things I had learned, so that I wouldn’t forget them. Well, research says that you don’t forget as much as your library gets bigger. But that’s beside the point. So those […]
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My panic attack and Simon Biles Olympic dreams.
Simon Biles is an amazing woman. She is powerful, charismatic, but still only human after all. After she pulled out of the event in the Olympics, much digital ink has been spilled. I grieve for her. Last year, I had a car accident. A driver ran through a stop sign, came across to the far […]
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Never Split the Difference- For professional coaches.
Coaching questions drawn from Chris Voss Never Split the difference How cool is a former FBI hostage negotiator? I don’t remember how to ran across this book, but it has become a re-read yearly (actually, I re-listen yearly). As a former FBI kidnapping negotiator, Chris Voss’s book “Never Split the Difference” is a great resource […]
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Immoral AI, Ultron and the American presidential election.
As I sat and watched my home country turn upon itself in the last few months, my heart and my head have been, like many of you, asking “how could this happen?” Many pundits have pointed digital fingers. Bad actors, fake news, real news called fake news, foreign influences, the list is long and varied. […]
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Why I turned off comments on my blog
I hadn’t blogged in a few weeks, when I had an idea and opened my WordPress interface to post my new thoughts. Low and behold, a whole slew of new comments were waiting for approval. Excitement surged until I saw that most of them were from one person. They all started fairly amicably enough, the […]
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The Myth of Human Potential.
Showtime. Bad Boys. Come Fly with me. If those phrases connect at all with you, we are perhaps kindred spirits, children of the days when the NBA was made of real men. (Except to my knowledge, there are no fake men, and it’s still a male dominated league. But I digress too quick.) One of […]
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The leadership secret sauce no one talks about.
Leaders have many great qualities but there is one secret sauce that makes few list but is evident in the truly trans-generational, transformative leaders. Today’s confessional: I hate being laughed at. Or at least I used to. I mean, cringe inside, feel sick about it for days, don’t-sleep-at-night-dislike being laughed at. I’ve talked with a […]
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4 Low Cost Gifts Any Father Would Love
Father’s Day. A day to celebrate dad’s. But unlike Mother’s Day, gifts are much more difficult. Favorite foods maybe, but flowers and a card don’t usually work. Dad toys tend to cost a whole lot of money. Go big or go home, right? Well, if a new jet-ski, boat, or truck isn’t in the budget, […]