Honest reflections on Unhealthy Relationships part 2: complaints

We can often find outselves hiding our needs in a complaint.

We haven’t had a date in a week.

You never listen to my ideas.

You never take initiative.

All these can easily be reframed as a simple request to have your needs legitemately met.

Could we go out on a date tonight?

Can we try this idea I have?

Can you make this decision?

See how easy that was? Instead of framing our needs in a complaint, we ask. And the person on the other end doesn’t feel attacked. Voila. genius!